As we grow up, we listen to our peers and their suggestions of what is cool and what we should like or dislike. We rely on outside influences such as our government, our religious leaders, our friends, and our family to help us identify what is right and wrong, what we should eat, and how we should live. Before we know it, we have no idea what our own personal truth is.
As adults, we are told to trust our gut or to follow our instinct. But when we have spent our formative years turning down the volume of our inner voice, how can we begin to trust ourselves?
What does it mean to trust yourself and why is it important?
Self-trust is the foundation for living a joyful and peaceful life as you are in alignment with your personal power and integrity.
When we trust ourselves, we will automatically say “yes” to what is congruent with our personal values and we will take the necessary action steps to support ourselves.
I recently found myself in a situation that would have challenged me to my core based on social conditioning and family programming, but in the last few years of releasing who I am not, I was able to trust myself as I took the action steps to support and love myself without even an ounce of self-doubt. It was a liberating experience to trust myself in this way.
There are times in our lives when an event so transformative takes place, it takes us back to every experience that we have had, and a new awareness of the experience takes hold. The stories of the past transform and love leads the way and provides our foundation when we release the people or situations in our lives that are no longer a match to our true authentic self.
Here are the 5 key steps I took to gain self-trust:
1. Stop seeking the opinions of others and recognize the guidance within you.
Get to know yourself, your likes, dislikes and accept yourself just as you are. When you can love what is, in this moment, you then have the power to make the changes necessary to support what you want to change in you.
2. Develop self-trust by honoring your emotions instead of hiding behind them.
As you honor your feelings, you develop trust in your capacity to deal with what arises. This is another way to love what is, including our positive aspects and shadow.
3. Follow your wisdom instead of looking outside yourself to provide inner peace.
You have all you need within to make the choices that support you. Spend time alone, get to know yourself. When in doubt, get into nature, the answer to any question can be found in nature.
4. Know your “yes” and know your “no”.
Being clear with yourself and others about your boundaries becomes the foundation for your personal truth. When you say “yes” to something that is a “no” you are no longer congruent with who you are, you give away your power, and you will no longer trust yourself. This is how you end up analyzing, questioning and second guessing yourself.
5. Take the action steps to follow through.
If it’s a “no” say “no”. Self-Trust is knowing that you will do the thing that is most congruent with you.
Self-Trust is your internal GPS system, you know where to go next, you trust your decisions both big and small and you’re willing to take risks. You no longer fear failure or making mistakes because your sense of self isn’t externally derived.